Adult Bullying

Bullying is a process of emotionally, mentally and psychologically tormenting and destroying the self worth of the target or the victim to induce a sense of superiority and control over the victim, giving the bully a futile sense of ego boost and self esteem. Such people are control freaks who do not value relationships and can destroy them in a fit of rage. They have no morality or self righteousness and are often a subject for negativity and foulplay. Normally, such people end up being ostracized from the society. Having said that in most cases, since having a futile sense of ego, they are extremely image conscious and would ensure that their fake sense of pride and self esteem is intact in whatever way possible.

 

You can be a subject to bullying as an adult almost everywhere of your life including your workplace, your marriage or other relationships that you share with people in your life. Being a victim of bullying is one of the most hard-hitting yet an invisible and unaddressed form of emotional torture that one goes through. You are almost helpless and unaware of how to deal with that person who is constantly barraging you with emotional abuse and destroying your self worth leading to depression and in most cases suicide. People around you do not understand the mental trauma that you are going through, probably because they havent experienced it themselves or probably because they do not give the significance or tend to disregard your emotional and mental well-being. They do not understand the kind of psychological damage someone’s repeated abuse making you feel insignificant, has done to your well-being as probably they were never the first person, whom these things were addressed to. All the emotional trauma that the victim goes through is extremely personal and integral to his soul and the overall destruction it does to your self confidence and self esteem is unquantifiable. The fear and anxiety that creeps into your soul, about how to overcome what you are going through is what makes you vulnerable and in most cases depressed, irritable and suicidal. Also one of the most important traits of a Bully is that he will target you in a space of your weakness. If you are around your friends or family, he would be reluctant, but the moment he sees that you are on yourself, he will grab on the opportunity and try and ensure that you stay there for as long as possible for him to continue bullying you.

 

Bullying is a disease and the people who do it are parasites of the society who feed on a false sense of ego and self esteem. The only and the most powerful way to stop them is to stand up against them. You can either stand up against them and abuse or the more mature and wiser option is to give them back with your work by raising your self worth and succeeding, because success is the best reply to a fool or an idiot. As they say you will never succeed an argument with an idiot because they will bring you down at their level and defeat you as they are more experienced in doing the same. You always have the more official route of getting legal. Protect that option, but first show the bully his real face in the mirror and that would be the ultimate reply to any bully in this world.